How Ambitious Are You?

Saturday, February 18/17

So there is a dating website where they ask you a series of questions in an attempt to determine what key characteristics would make a good match for you and thus show you profiles that meet these traits.

Now this really shouldn't come as any shock as I don't think there is a dating site/app that doesn't do the same thing in an attempt to set themselves apart from all the others in the marketplace.

But somehow along the way they come up with a determination of one's ambition.

Wait, what?, are you kidding me?

Ambition is defined as "a strong desire to do or to achieve something, typically requiring determination and hard work"

By that definition aren't we all ambitious in one way or another?

Doesn't the mere fact that a person has gone to the effort to create a dating profile signify some type of ambition?

I mean why else go to the bother at all?

Now that we've established, well sort of anyways, that we are all ambitious, lets go a little deeper on the subject and see where it leads us.

I don't see us ending up down the rabbit hole or lost in the woods so I don't think we need to leave a trail of bread crumbs in order to find our way back home.

Am I ambitious?

Yes and no.

Not what you were expecting to hear after the opening to this blog was it?

Well I've said from day one that I'm going to be as honest as I can be as long as it doesn't hurt anyone other than myself, so that is how I view myself, I am ambitious at times and not so much at others, it's probably good to say that my ambition varies depending on things going on in my life.

When I was younger I was AMBITIOUS. Career wise that is, I'd work crazy hours to get things done and show those in charge that I was the one they wanted working on key projects.

But that changed over time, the arrival of my kids has had a huge impact on my life and how I view things, and to a certain extent the level of my ambition when it comes to certain areas of my life.

These days I'd say I'm at a medium to high level of ambition when it comes to my work and probably a low level when it comes to dating.

Work is easy to determine as I'm really enjoying the new job, creating the processes by which we'll be able to meet our reporting requirements to senior management and the board, and clearing a tonne of special projects off my to do list. Once we get a controller on board it will be even better as it means I won't be covering off half that job on a daily basis.

Not entirely sure why I think my dating ambitions are low but if I had to say I'd probably notch it up the season more than anything, I don't know why but dating in the winter is especially hard for me for some reason, mostly because winter dates are usually meet ups for a drink and they can tend to feel like an interview. Summer and Fall dates are way better as we can get outside for an activity, maybe play a round of golf, hit the driving range, walk the canal, hike the Gatineau's, or meet up at the dog park and watch our pooches run around making new friends.

Possibly another reason it's low is my being an introvert makes it so much harder on me to meet people, I'm not the kind of guy who is going to walk up to a woman I find attractive in the produce section at Loblaws and strike up a conversation out of the blue. Oh God how I wish I had that in me to do but the all powerful made me better with the written word than he did with those expressed verbally. Guess I could lug a laptop and portable printer around with me for just those moments but that alone might be enough to send any potential date running for her life..........

So I'll go with this......I am ambitious at times and not so much the rest of the time. Does this hurt me in any way? I'd say yes as it means I might not have my eyes open to possibilities as they cross my path.

But on the other hand I've always been a firm believer that love happens on it's own and nothing you do can speed it up or slow it down in any way.

Love is organic. It is....simple as that........you can help it along by creating profiles that put your appearance out there for public viewing on the off chance someone comes along and says to themselves "Huh, that one looks kind of cute, He can even communicate in complete sentences with words having more than one syllable"

So that is what I've done. I've been ambitious enough to create a profile that offers a glimpse of who I am, a glimpse and nothing more as there is so much to me that I can't put into words, least not words that would truly do me justice.

But I'm not so ambitious that I visit the site daily or tweak said profile that much.

So are you ambitious, and if so at what?

Marcus