Sunday, May 13/18
I would like to wish all the mother's and even single dad's doing double duty as both parents a very Happy Mother's Day!!
Being a parent is a unheralded position and one that never gets enough recognition in my opinion.
I'm lucky that my children have a wonderful mother who loves them to the moon and beyond and I appreciate her as both my friend and co-parent as we have worked together to try and set the best example for our children.
Sometimes things don't work out between two people but I can honestly say I don't think I could have picked a better mother for the kids if I'd tried, just as I'm sure many of you feel the same way towards your own mom's, wives, and girlfriends who are mom to your own children.
Some of you may be far away from your mom or she might be far away from you doing that career thing, know that she loves you more than anything and distance will never diminish that love!!!
I hope today finds the mom's in good health and spirits as they share some special times with those they love.
So Happy Mother's Day to VJ and to Corinne :)
My name is Marcus and I miss my own mom but know she is watching out over her family today and everyday.
Sunday, May 13, 2018
Tuesday, May 1, 2018
The Blog - Sometimes Too Much & Sometimes Too Little
Tuesday, May 01/18
So I've been thinking, not always a good thing, about some comments I've received lately about the blog and how I post things, well really how much I disclose or fail to disclose, as the case may be.
I follow a simple rule, simple for me kids so pay close attention, on how much I will share with my readers.
Here it is broken down into it's simplest form: I'm fair game to a certain extent and those in my life aren't.
Just what the hell does that mean?
I'll be upfront and honest about myself, well as upfront and honest as I can be without revealing my actual identity or image as we all like our privacy. I'll share my feelings, my highs, my lows, and my hopes.
I'll share how my kids make me feel, how we interact with one another, the things they do that make me proud, but I'll never share their names. They deserve to live life without any judgment being passed onto them because of something dear old dad has said or done.
I'll share the highlights and more often than not the low-lights of my attempts to date and find my one.
They say dating is a numbers game and that in the end we all find what we are looking for if we just go through the process. Maybe that's true but even though I work with numbers I've never been a big fan of basing my life on the law of averages, just seems like a recipe for disaster to me.
So I'll share stuff with you like my current medical issues, the feelings I have inside me about my line of work and how I'm giving serious thought to changing things up, what makes me smile when I think of dating, what makes me cringe when I think of dating, and basically what makes me uniquely me.
I'm willing to share what I think my strengths are as a man and I'll do my best to share what I perceive to be my weaknesses, we all have strengths and weaknesses, but being able to express them is what sets us apart.
I'll even share my search for the one, well at least my one, the one I like to say is imperfectly perfect for me. I had her once and if the Gods look down upon me favourably one more time maybe I'll have her again.
I'll share my hopes and my fears. I'll share that which makes me me, and in return all I ask is that you hold of judgment till you've had a chance to read the history of the blogs and maybe continue with those still to come.
My name is Marcus and this is my blog, come in, sit down, and enjoy the ride.
So I've been thinking, not always a good thing, about some comments I've received lately about the blog and how I post things, well really how much I disclose or fail to disclose, as the case may be.
I follow a simple rule, simple for me kids so pay close attention, on how much I will share with my readers.
Here it is broken down into it's simplest form: I'm fair game to a certain extent and those in my life aren't.
Just what the hell does that mean?
I'll be upfront and honest about myself, well as upfront and honest as I can be without revealing my actual identity or image as we all like our privacy. I'll share my feelings, my highs, my lows, and my hopes.
I'll share how my kids make me feel, how we interact with one another, the things they do that make me proud, but I'll never share their names. They deserve to live life without any judgment being passed onto them because of something dear old dad has said or done.
I'll share the highlights and more often than not the low-lights of my attempts to date and find my one.
They say dating is a numbers game and that in the end we all find what we are looking for if we just go through the process. Maybe that's true but even though I work with numbers I've never been a big fan of basing my life on the law of averages, just seems like a recipe for disaster to me.
So I'll share stuff with you like my current medical issues, the feelings I have inside me about my line of work and how I'm giving serious thought to changing things up, what makes me smile when I think of dating, what makes me cringe when I think of dating, and basically what makes me uniquely me.
I'm willing to share what I think my strengths are as a man and I'll do my best to share what I perceive to be my weaknesses, we all have strengths and weaknesses, but being able to express them is what sets us apart.
I'll even share my search for the one, well at least my one, the one I like to say is imperfectly perfect for me. I had her once and if the Gods look down upon me favourably one more time maybe I'll have her again.
I'll share my hopes and my fears. I'll share that which makes me me, and in return all I ask is that you hold of judgment till you've had a chance to read the history of the blogs and maybe continue with those still to come.
My name is Marcus and this is my blog, come in, sit down, and enjoy the ride.
#doodleaday
Tuesday, May 01/18
So I have this app on my iPhone called theChive that I peruse as the mood strikes. The app has a ton of categories with pictures of women, food, alcohol, military, and generally interesting things.
As I was waiting for my bagel to toast this morning I opened it up and came across one post about a Disney illustrator named Gary Andrews who recently lost his wife and how he has been coping with the grief and helping his children through the process by drawing daily doodles that are emotional messages to his wife.
I recommend doing a search on twitter for this hash tag but be prepared to shed a few tears, I shed more than a few this morning and feel some more coming on again as I write this post.
Here is the link I found: https://twitter.com/hashtag/doodleaday
My heart goes out to Gary and his children but I'm sure his daily doodles are helping someone deal with a loss of their own as well as helping him and his family take a fresh step every morning.
I don't have the pleasure of knowing Gary firsthand but think that sharing a pint with him would end up making me a better person for it.
The last doodle shown in the posting shows Gary and his children sitting side by side looking up at a shining star with the caption "Love Always"..............better words were never spoken
Marcus
Two Week Leave of Absence
Tuesday, May 01/18
So my appointment yesterday was both enlightening and disappointing at the same time.
The enlightenment comes from being told I'm one of the small percentage of the population who has a delayed reaction to Mitomycin B. How small? well my doctor tells me less than 2% so lucky me.
This delayed reaction has seen the incision site in my bladder from which the tumor was removed not being able to fully heal, thus continually causing clots and bleeding to occur. The added bonus is that it has also irritated my kidneys to such an extent as to make passing urine feel like someone is standing behind me and slowly inserting a red hot knife into my back. When it hit the first time on Saturday it literally almost drove me to my knees and had me hoping I'd just pass out. Since that initial introduction the pain seems to vary and I find that the more I try and pass urine the less it hurts, of course I'm still experiencing the clots and blood in my urine which has done wonders for the head of my penis. Too graphic? Nobody told you that you had to read the blog lol
The disappointment comes from now being placed on a 2 week medical leave as the constant need to use the restroom coupled with the pain makes it almost impossible to focus on my work without adding in the need to move around or lay down to relieve some of the pressure I feel inside. As much as my work tries to be new age, even they draw the line at installing cots in our workstations.
So now I've got two weeks to kill and I'm already going stir crazy after one freaking day.
I can't even golf as I never know when the pain will hit and don't dare get too far out from the clubhouse in case I need to use a restroom lol
I'm also on two new medications, well one new and one renewal of one I was prescribed post surgery. The funny thing is the new one states it can cause constipation as well as diarrhea, kind of covering both bases at once wouldn't you say.
I'm actually back to taking in liquids as I've also got a nice pain killer to help combat things. I'd actually cut back on liquids Sunday as the pain was so intense but that is kind of short sighed given the lack of fluids is actually bad for your kidneys.
So I'm trying to put together a to-do list of things I can accomplish over the next two weeks that will at least allow me to feel like I've done something positive with this unexpected gift. On the list is a good spring cleaning one room per day, go through the stuff in the basement and purge those items I don't need, rearrange my bedroom set just to mix things up, go through my clothes and put together things I won't wear or don't fit into and donate to a charity, take some online courses for Office 2016, and catch up on some reading.
My name is Marcus and when life hands me lemons I usually try and trade them in for some plums.
So my appointment yesterday was both enlightening and disappointing at the same time.
The enlightenment comes from being told I'm one of the small percentage of the population who has a delayed reaction to Mitomycin B. How small? well my doctor tells me less than 2% so lucky me.
This delayed reaction has seen the incision site in my bladder from which the tumor was removed not being able to fully heal, thus continually causing clots and bleeding to occur. The added bonus is that it has also irritated my kidneys to such an extent as to make passing urine feel like someone is standing behind me and slowly inserting a red hot knife into my back. When it hit the first time on Saturday it literally almost drove me to my knees and had me hoping I'd just pass out. Since that initial introduction the pain seems to vary and I find that the more I try and pass urine the less it hurts, of course I'm still experiencing the clots and blood in my urine which has done wonders for the head of my penis. Too graphic? Nobody told you that you had to read the blog lol
The disappointment comes from now being placed on a 2 week medical leave as the constant need to use the restroom coupled with the pain makes it almost impossible to focus on my work without adding in the need to move around or lay down to relieve some of the pressure I feel inside. As much as my work tries to be new age, even they draw the line at installing cots in our workstations.
So now I've got two weeks to kill and I'm already going stir crazy after one freaking day.
I can't even golf as I never know when the pain will hit and don't dare get too far out from the clubhouse in case I need to use a restroom lol
I'm also on two new medications, well one new and one renewal of one I was prescribed post surgery. The funny thing is the new one states it can cause constipation as well as diarrhea, kind of covering both bases at once wouldn't you say.
I'm actually back to taking in liquids as I've also got a nice pain killer to help combat things. I'd actually cut back on liquids Sunday as the pain was so intense but that is kind of short sighed given the lack of fluids is actually bad for your kidneys.
So I'm trying to put together a to-do list of things I can accomplish over the next two weeks that will at least allow me to feel like I've done something positive with this unexpected gift. On the list is a good spring cleaning one room per day, go through the stuff in the basement and purge those items I don't need, rearrange my bedroom set just to mix things up, go through my clothes and put together things I won't wear or don't fit into and donate to a charity, take some online courses for Office 2016, and catch up on some reading.
My name is Marcus and when life hands me lemons I usually try and trade them in for some plums.
Happy May Day
Tuesday, May 01/18
First off, Happy May Day to all the socialists and communists following the blog, pretty sure I read somewhere at some point in time that this is the day to celebrate the proletariat uprising to overthrow the established democratic capitalistic nations of the world.
Just need to ask one thing - how is that going for you these days?
Now I am saying and asking sort of tongue in cheek as I am one of those who believe in a free market economy, but one with some serious checks and balances so that pure greed isn't allowed to run roughshod over people.
I admire the likes of Henry Ford who was able to revolutionize manufacturing methods to such an extent so as to offer middle class families the opportunity to own a vehicle, no comment on whether they truly needed one or the benefits it brought the world, as well those individuals who saw a need for some form of union to protect workers and ensure they weren't treated like nothing more than a commodity to be used and tossed aside.
So as we see celebrations around the world today marking the date let's take a moment and reflect that as much as we share in common that there are still huge differences in ideology that see us confronting one another from across battle lines, whether these lines are physical, political, or emotional.
My name is Marcus and tho I may not always be as tolerate as I'd like, I do try my best to see things from the other viewpoint so as to try and understand where the person is coming from, doesn't mean I agree with them but the basis of a good debate comes in trying to understand both sides of the argument so as to put forth cognizant questions.
First off, Happy May Day to all the socialists and communists following the blog, pretty sure I read somewhere at some point in time that this is the day to celebrate the proletariat uprising to overthrow the established democratic capitalistic nations of the world.
Just need to ask one thing - how is that going for you these days?
Now I am saying and asking sort of tongue in cheek as I am one of those who believe in a free market economy, but one with some serious checks and balances so that pure greed isn't allowed to run roughshod over people.
I admire the likes of Henry Ford who was able to revolutionize manufacturing methods to such an extent so as to offer middle class families the opportunity to own a vehicle, no comment on whether they truly needed one or the benefits it brought the world, as well those individuals who saw a need for some form of union to protect workers and ensure they weren't treated like nothing more than a commodity to be used and tossed aside.
So as we see celebrations around the world today marking the date let's take a moment and reflect that as much as we share in common that there are still huge differences in ideology that see us confronting one another from across battle lines, whether these lines are physical, political, or emotional.
My name is Marcus and tho I may not always be as tolerate as I'd like, I do try my best to see things from the other viewpoint so as to try and understand where the person is coming from, doesn't mean I agree with them but the basis of a good debate comes in trying to understand both sides of the argument so as to put forth cognizant questions.
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