Been a Busy Week

July 13/2015

So I haven't posted an entry to the blog in more than a week so thought I should give everyone an update before the panic sets in and people think I'm doing a disappearing act again :)

Things have really picked up in my life on all fronts - parenting, coaching, working, and even relationship wise. Let me add all in a good way.

Parent wise you'd think things would be slow with summer vacation here but my son had a bit of a stumble with his math so his mom and I have been talking about what options exist to help get him back on track and ready for Grade 11 this fall.  We've decided to have him do some tutoring for the next few weeks and you can guess how that went over with him. Like my ex said, all we asked was a certain minimum and he struggled to achieve it so now he has to pay the piper.

Work has gotten really busy as people send things my way. I think over the past few weeks I've done more new stuff than I did in the prior five years at my old company. My boss has been super cool and easy to talk to about the new projects and it really has me feeling like a new person. More than one person has commented that I look so much happier at the new job than I ever did at the old one. So true and so happy that change came my way. Didn't like the change of being told my services were no longer needed but amazing how one companies discard becomes another companies gem!!

Coaching has seen me take a much more active role with my son's competitive soccer team and I think the results speak volumes - 3 wins and 1 tie in the last four games. The results are nice and sort of vindicate my belief in myself as a coach but the more rewarding aspect is that the lads seem to be enjoying themselves safe in the knowledge that I'm doing my best to shield them from undue criticism. Think it's still early in the process but the most recent email I received from the head coach thanked me for switching around practices from Friday to Sunday and reminded me to keep doing what I'm doing for "our" team.  Best part is my son is actually having fun once again and happy I stepped up to help out, for me the nice thing is that I've shown myself that I can be a more relaxed coach in a very competitive environment and not lose my "shit" when things aren't going as planned.

Relationship wise let me just say that C and I are talking again and taking things slow. Our talks have helped me understand better what she was going through with all the changes her new position were forcing on her and let me express how lost her making a decision on her own without any discussion between us that impacted both our lives in a huge way.  My daughter asked me if I was sure I wanted to go down that road again knowing how much I got hurt and I told her absolutely as being open to hurt means my feelings are real and that C means so much to me.......love means feeling joy and the occasional heart ache, doesn't mean giving up.

There is a reason there is a phrase "second chance" and I 'm a big believer in it. I've gotten more than my fair share of second chances so it would be hypocritical of me to deny one to someone I care so deeply about.

We're doing our best not to get too far ahead of ourselves and I'm sure we'll both have those moments where we hesitate and worry about where this is all headed and that's fine as it's part of being in a relationship. The key thing is we've agreed to talk before making decisions and I don't think we could ask for more than that now could we?