Saturday, October 27, 2018

Ladies & Gentlemen....We Have S N O W !!!!

Saturday, October 27/18

So there I was sitting on the couch with Moki curled up next to me, a pint glass filled with a cold Big Wave Pale Ale, The Nutcracker playing on the sound bar, reading my tablet when what did my peripheral vision see out the front window?

The twinkle of falling snow as it crossed the front porch light made me pause and look out the window to see my front yard slowly turning white.

Now I'm pretty sure it will all melt tomorrow before noon but it was still cool to see as it came earlier than I expected this year.

The funny thing was that while I was walking Moki this morning in the park I had to really bundle up in a heavier jacket than usual, gloves, and a toque as it was -2c. As we were walking I told her that it felt cold enough for snow and we better get all the walks in we can before she begins her annual winter refusal to go for a walk in the snow, sure enough now we have snow and she won't be happy in the morning when she steps out the door and feels it on her paws. spoiled little princess that I've made her.

So stay warm, be safe, and remember to be nice to one another.

Here is my front yard at 8:35 am and the snow is still falling :)



My name is Marcus and while I don't embrace winter like a lot of my fellow Canadians, I don't exactly hate it either as it increases my appreciation for the other three seasons.

Today's musical recommendation is Vertigo by Khalid.  I'm not sure why this song touched me the way it did but I literally started to feel tear's on my cheeks when I heard this song for the first time this afternoon. He has such an amazing voice and coupled with the lyrics this one just seemed to reach inside my chest and gently squeeze my heart, reminding me that is is better to feel something, even pain, rather than being numb to life.

Let's Talk About..............Golf

Friday, October 19/18

Given the time of year it seems kind of odd to talk about golf but I've always marched to a different drummer than most people :)

Additionally, seeing how few posts I've done lately the reader might have expected my newest entry to talk about love, relationships, the recent legalization of marijuana, or the polarization between the left and the right here in Canada.  Rest assured, these are still topics near to my heart and sure to result in a post or two down the road.

But for now, let's talk about my 4th favourite thing in life - Golf :-)

Wait, you ask what are numbers 1-3?

Really? you can't figure that one out by yourself......gotta say that makes me wonder.....

Number 1 - Jack, my incredibly awesome grandson who is the pure light in my heart.
Number 2 - my daughter and son, both of whom amaze me every single day with the adults they've developed into over the years. Might now have worked out with they're mother, but man did we make two pretty amazing kids, if I do say so myself, and I do say so!
Number 3 - Moki the Wonder Puppy. I know at 7 years old she isn't really a puppy but she still acts like one and probably will her entire life.

Coming in number 4 is golf, though I do like to tell the kids that sometimes it's Jack and than Golf in my order of preferences lol

So back to golf.........

I got a late start to my game this year due to the health scare, surgery, and complications, didn't really play my first round until early July but did try and make up for it by playing multiple rounds every weekend at my club, Stittsville Golf.

Due to the health issue and corresponding late start I didn't renew my membership and thus ended up playing the majority of my rounds in the afternoon when rates were better.

I think I managed to play around 25 rounds, down substantially from last years +50 rounds all around the Ottawa region.  All of my rounds this year were at Stittsville, due to the aforementioned pricing as well as the course being fairly close to home and I know it like the back of my hand.

Now even though I didn't get as many round in this season as last I still consider it one of my best seasons ever!!

What made it so good? A lot of things I guess come into play when I make that statement. First among them was the simple fact that I got to play at all when there was a chance that wouldn't be the case at the start of the year. I think that fact more than anything convinced me to play a couple of rounds back in January when we were down in Mexico for my daughters wedding. As much as I love to play, I'm quite adverse to playing a round with anything other than my own clubs for the simple reason that I know my distances with them, other clubs leave me feeling confused as the distances hit by various clubs can vary by up to 15 yards. Now that might not seem like much but when you are 145 yards out and know you can hit your 7 iron and put the ball on the green it means everything, as if you now find yourself 15 yards short of the green or 15 yards past the green you can find yourself in a bunker or water, should the hole be an island green.

I got lucky in Mexico and with my first round was given a set of Ping G20's, only one version older than my own Pings G30's, and clubs I was familiar with, though there was no Hybrid to hit off the fairways and thus I was forced to actually hit a fairway wood, not something I enjoy.  The second round was with a set of Titlelist irons and Callaway woods that included a nice 4 Hyrbid. The Titlelist were really easy to hit and were as nice as my own Pings but mine about $600 cheaper to buy brand newlol

My Mexico rounds were decent, one 89 and one 93, one played with my ex's boyfriend, a decent guy who I enjoyed playing with, and the last round as part of a foursome with some other people from the resort. This round may eventually end up being a separate blog as it was pretty much any single heterosexual males dream group, I'll let you ponder than and come up with your own visions lol.

The other factors that made the season my best ever included getting asked to play in our companies foursome for the annual golf tournament put on by the parent company. The group I joined had finished in 2nd place 3 years running and we managed to win it this year by 1 stroke!!!  Not that I was the deciding factor as I had to have some of the shortest drives but my wedge work and putting more than made up for my lack of distance in this best ball format.

The final factor was my traditional birthday round of golf. Now for my birthday every year I treat myself to a round at a course that is usually out of my range price wise. Last year it was The Marshes and the two years prior to that included Loch March and The Canadian.

This year I played my birthday round at Stittsville, not an expensive course but the difference was that my son joined me for a full round of golf, the first time we've played a round together in probably 9 years or so. What made it better was that it was his idea to play a round with me. I had a huge smile when we checked in at the clubhouse and got to introduce him to everyone and saw the look on his face when he realized every single person we interacted with knew me on a first name basis and had something nice to say to me, from the club pro to the women working the refreshment stand to the groundskeeper we ran into on the first tee who let me know pin placements on each hole since they'd switched over to new flags and the colour codes weren't on the scorecards yet.

I didn't play a bad round, shot an even 90, but probably got a bigger kick out of watching my son play so well and hear him tell me at the end that he couldn't wait for our round next year on my birthday.

Golf has been and will continue to be my own versions of yoga and meditation all rolled into one.

Now matter how bad I play, and trust me the bad rounds happen far more often than I'd like, I still come away feeling mentally recharged. I use the time on the course to think over the things going on in my life, talking to myself as I play the round, reminding myself of the little things I need to focus on, and reminding myself that each day is like a clean slate, to be filled with the words and actions that I want without influence from yesterday or tomorrow.

Now here is the odd thing about my golf season this year........it ended back in early September when I put my clubs away even though there was still probably about a month of golf left for 2018.

Why did I put them away so early you are probably wondering.........the answer is simple to me but probably not simple enough for anyone else to understand.

It was simply the right time for me to stop playing. My season had more good rounds than bad and I wanted to end it on a high note, so with the tournament win and my birthday round in August, followed up with two rounds in the mid to high 80's the time was right to put the sticks away for another year.

Every year I seem to make one big purchase that fills a gap in my golf bag. 2015 saw the new Ping G30 irons added courtesy of Corinne, 2016 was a new Nike Vapour Driver, 2017 was a new Titlelist Vokey Wedge, and this year was, well nothing really. I replaced my worn out golf shoes but between a $50 gift card from my son from last Christmas and a scratch off ticket at Golf Town that took an additional 25% of the cost I ended up spending something like $26 for new Adidas spikeless golf shoes.

Now 2019 will be another story as I plan on getting a new putter and will go about doing it the right way and get fitted properly, like I did when I got the new Pings in 2015. I've never really invested in a great putter and given it is literally the only club you are 100% going to use on every single hole, unless you manage to hole out a wedge shot, it makes sense to make an investment in a good one.

It's not like I have had bad putters in my bag. My ex gave me a nice Taylor Made Nubbins as a wedding gift back in 2001 but it's kind of gotten a bit long in the tooth, like the guy using it lol, others I've used include another Taylor Made (Ghost), a decent Ping Shea H, and the current Taylor Made (White Smoke). The problem is one is perfectly balanced (White Smoke) but more like a traditional blade putter and other is a semi mallet design (Ping Shea H) that isn't as balanced. I spent this season switching back and forth between the White Smoke and the Shea H but never really felt completely comfortable with either one to fully commit to it.

I'm leaning towards a Titlelist Scotty Cameron but they run between $300-$500 each, kind of steep but still my preference as I know I'll get good use out of it if I can only get the right length and alignment.

Oh, and I have to get my irons regripped but that probably won't be more than $75 or so. I learned the hard way that irons need to be regripped about every 50 rounds or so, I left the grips on my old irons from 2000 to 2014 and could I ever feel the difference when the new grips were installed, like 10 yards of additional distance difference :-)

So that's my post on golf this season. I had some great rounds, a couple I'd like to forget, one tournament win, one father son bonding round, and some things to consider for next season.

My name is Marcus and I'm coming to slowly realize that the odds of my shooting in the low 80's are probably better than the odds of me meeting my one, but that doesn't mean I'm giving up...yet

Today's musical suggestion is Patio Lanterns by Kim Mitchell. A good Canadian artist from the 90's who knew how to turn a lyric.



Sunday, October 7, 2018

Happy Thanksgiving Canada

Sunday, October 07/18

Well tomorrow is Thanksgiving in Canada and I wanted to take a moment to wish all my fellow Canadians a Happy Thanksgiving, hoping you are able to share some warm times and good food with family and friends.

My son and I will be heading over to my daughters house tomorrow to partake of some turkey, ham, and all the fixings. When I saw her this morning she was literally bouncing with anticipation about hosting the family dinner, so much that I had to stifle my laugh lest she think I wasn't taking her serious.

Over the years I've watched both my kids develop into well rounded adults, who have brought me much joy a little worry now and again, but in the end I've come to realize that the ex and I did a pretty damn good job raising them as co-parents.

I know that my son has it easier with me than my daughter did as I came into her life when she was 5 years old and really learned how to be a dad with her, much to his benefit, but at the same time I don't remember that part of my life where I wasn't her daddy.

Life can throw us some unexpected twists but the key is being able to keep your feet from becoming too firmly planted so you can change directions as warranted.

Three years ago I was making my first Thanksgiving Dinner for my family, albeit with a lot of assistance from Corinna, and I can say thinking back on that day makes me appreciate those who have come into my life, whether for a moment, a season, or forvever!!

Forever doesn't mean they are physically still part of your life but that the influence they created has stayed with you through the test of time.

I'm pretty damn lucky to say that has been the case with a couple of people who had large parts in shaping the man I am today.

Stay warm and always remember............you are important to someone, whether you might not realize it or not.

Marcus

Today's musical recommendation is an oldie but goodie......"We've Got Tonight" by Bob Segar & The Silver Bullet Band

Sunday, September 30, 2018

Ponder this and I'll be back in a bit

Sunday, September 30/18

There are two gifts every parent should give their children:

Roots upon which to grow and wings with which to discover the world around themselves.

It's been far longer than I like since I last posted a blog and there really is no solid reason for it other than I just haven't been putting the time into getting any presentable.

Not like there aren't a lot of things I can blog about but more just me not being able to motivate myself to do them, and no it's not because I've been busy golfing or dating, though I was doing both  of those things for a bit, maybe there is a blog entry about each of my recent adventures around each of them lol

Marcus


Thursday, August 23, 2018

Hitting the 5 Year Mark Soon

Wednesday, August 22/18

So I was looking at the statistics for the blog earlier tonight and have to admit to being a little bit impressed with it.

I've got 521 entries posted over a 5 year span, or an entry every 3.5 days. That's a better rate than I actually imagined I was generating. Granted, some of those days saw multiple posts and there were long stretches where I didn't even look at the blog, but still, you've got to give me some props for hitting the +500 mark for a blog that isn't designed to make me any money :-)

The other fact that still amazes me is the number of countries in which people have read an entry from the blog. Still leading the way are Canada and the United States, but pushing hard for recognition are England, Australia, Russia, and Germany.

I've got 9 entries in draft mode that may or may not see the light of day anytime soon, really sort of depends on my mood and how I think they'll be perceived.

I'll admit there have been times I wish this was all I did and other times I wish I'd never written the first entry, it's been both a boon and a curse at different times in my life.

In many ways I view the blog like I do dating......a necessary evil in order to retain the last shreds of my sanity and possibly not end up alone in my old age.

So come October I'll have a nice glass of Pinot Grigio to celebrate five years online baring my soul, the joys and tears of dating in today's age of online instant buffet satisfaction, and maybe be a bit closer to meeting my one........or no closer than I was yesterday....guess time will tell

Marcus

Wednesday, August 22, 2018

A Couple Of Thoughts On The Dance We Call Dating..........

Wednesday, August 22/18

So I've been sort of busy the last little while and as a consequence kind of neglecting the blog.

To make amends for this egregious behavior please enjoy the snippets below and know I've got a couple of new entries nearing completion :)

"I'm just not looking for anything serious right now" - a woman who's about to start a long term relationship....with someone else.

"Let's definitely still be friends, though, okay?" - a woman you will never hear from again.

"You're so paranoid, babe. It's just my roommate" - a woman who is definitely texting guys she met on the Internet during your dinner date.

"I really need to work on myself" - a woman who thinks you should probably work on yourself.

"I'm, like totally cool with the casual thing" - a woman who's been planning her wedding day since she was six years old.

"I'm absolutely not a fuck boy" - A Fuck Boy.

"Don't you think monogamy is such an antiquated concept" - a man who will cheat on you as soon as the honeymoon stage ends.

"Eight rock hard inches" - An exaggerator.

"Maybe someday, when the timing is better" - a woman who could not be less interested in ever seeing you again.

"No, nice guys don't always finish last" A girl who has never dated a nice guy in her entire adult life.

"I need some space" - A guy who is too nice to tell you he hates the way you chew.

"He's really.....funny" - A girl who thinks you're cute, but not cute enough to date.

"You  Never  Said  We  Were  Exclusive" - a guy with multiple side-chicks.

"What biological clock? I don't want babies until I'm thirty five" a twenty-nine-year-old single woman trying desperately not to freak out her date.

"I can't feel anything when I use one of those" - A pull out method advocate.

"Do you believe in soul mates?" - A man who will undoubtedly get in your pants before the night is over.

"I'm not crazy" - A psycho stage-five clinger.

"I love you" - A glutton for punishment.

All of the above are courtesy of "The Monday Girl" by Julie Johnson

My name is Marcus and I'm still reading romance stories on my iPad, AKA the Glutton for Punishment :)

Wednesday, August 8, 2018

Nulli Secundus........A Simple Latin Phrase

Wednesday, August 08/18

Nulli Secundus.........Second to none

I first heard this phrase a few years back and didn't give it the significance it deserved at the time but it's crossed my mind more than a few times and come to have a very special meaning to me.

Honestly, I get so many reminders of that period in my life that I doubt I'll ever not say it to myself at least once a week until the day I take my last breathe.........

Yesterday, today, and all the tomorrows...........you shall forevermore be Nulli Secundus to me

Marcus

Update Oct 27/18 - I've received quite a few messages asking who this blog is about and all I'll say is she knows who she is and I hope she understands the message.

Sunday, August 5, 2018

Baby Jack's New Game

Sunday, August 05/18

So I was supposed to go over and see my daughter and grandson yesterday while her husband was working but plans got derailed when Jack fought against taking his nap and they ended up getting invited to go to a friends house for some swimming, I was told I could come over later but I had a tee time booked with a friend for the afternoon so we made plans for me to come visit this morning.

When I got there my daughter and son-in-law were in the front yard moving some plants around and Jack was walking around giving them directions. The coolest thing happened as I pulled up and got out of the car, Jack saw me and started yelling and laughing, grabbed his mom's arm and pointed at me. He's been doing stuff like this more and more and I have to admit, he steals more of my heart each time he flashes his smile at me.

When I walked up to them he reached out for to me pick him up, which I did while also planting a smooch on his cheeks, making him laugh and hiding his face in my neck.

He wanted down and when I put him down he grabbed my hand and made me follow him into the garage where his Audi stroller was parked. he climbed in and pointed at the handle for me to push him around lol

I pushed him back to the front yard and asked my daughter if I could take him down to the park for a bit, she agreed and asked her husband to get him a clean shirt and his hat and sandals. Well when he went to pick Jack up to take him inside to change him, Jack lost his mind and started crying and clutching at my leg. My daughter laughed and my son-in-law smiled as he said it looked like grandpa needed to get him ready.

Once I got him changed we walked down to the park where over the course of the next 45 minutes Jack went on the swing, all three slides, and showed grandpa how good he was at climbing the assorted ladders on both play structures before he started to lose steam and looked a little tired.

We said our goodbyes to the other parents and kids at the park and headed home.

When we got home you could see him fighting falling asleep but his mom wanted him to have a little snack before nap time so off to the kitchen we went to have a bagel.

Now here is where it gets fun as Jack wanted a fruit pouch, this snack that had a little lid and lets one squeeze out the fruit and suck it like a straw.

His mom gave him one with apples and banana's that is his favourite. Now I was sitting on the floor facing the couch talking to my son-in-law about my upcoming days off where I'm going to watch Jack while his regular daycare is on holiday when my daughter sat down next to him and started laughing so hard I thought she might wet herself.

She told me to turn around and look at Jack so I did so, except each time I turned one way he'd move over to stay behind me with this little grin on his face, I tried turning the other way and he turned to match my movement, staying just behind me and out of my view. We did this a few times when he started to lift his fruit pouch as if to squirt some on my back and we all burst out laughing, well I was laughing till the little bugger actually squirted me and started dancing around me.

He tried this a couple of more times as my daughter went to scoop him up in her arms, apologizing to me for the mess but I just smiled and told her not to worry as seeing him laugh and smile was worth anything to me.

Jack shortly hit the energy wall at that point and crashed hard for his nap, but not before giving grandpa a kiss and hug.

I'm watching him on the 15th and 16th and can't wait as I've got some activities planned like the splash pad near my house, Chapters for some new books, and even a Dairy Queen run for a cone.

My name is Marcus and my grandson owns my heart lock, stock, and barrel. I'd love to share all of these special moments with him with my one and maybe it will happen, but until that time I guess I'll be greedy to keep them all to myself :)

Today's musical suggestion is Tropicalia by Beck from his 1998 album Mutations.

Saturday, August 4, 2018

If You Have A Few Moments & Need A Laugh

Saturday, August 04/18

So I've been doing more reading and YouTubing than anything lately and stumbled across a this series on YouTube that pays homage to the Addams Family......well sort of, more an adult version of everyone's favourite sociopath in training...Wednesday

It is pretty funny, least to this guy, and maybe you'll like it as well so I've attached a link to season one episode one for you: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UD5fBjKwgEQ

Enjoy!
Marcus the merry blogger

Tuesday, July 31, 2018

I Paused And Had A Chuckle Today

Tuesday, July 31/18

So while I was walking down the street to grab some lunch I passed this sign and had to turn around to read it twice as it made me smile.

On my way back to work I counted approximately 6 other people stopping at it to take a picture and each of us exchanged a smile as we passed one another....



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My name is Marcus and I'm pretty sure Moki thinks I'm nothing more than her human pillow :-)

Wednesday, July 25, 2018

The Blog Will Be Changing A Bit

Wednesday, July 25/18

So when I started this little blog a few years ago I really had no long term plans on how I wanted to see it go in terms of how often I'd post an entry and over time it's just been sort of a hit or miss with me, dependent on my mood at the time more than anything else.

The one thing I have always felt was that the blog entries needed to have some substance, a little meat if you will, if they were to be taken seriously, and because of that ill conceived notion I've tended to hold back on posting some entries as I didn't feel the length was sufficient enough to get the message across.

Guess you can say that size mattered to me lol

But after spending the last few weeks sort of doing a reassessment of what I want out of life I've started to simplify a lot of things, including the blog, all hopefully for the better.

No longer will posts be held back just because I've not filled them out to such a length that I feel make then reader worthy.

No, now posts will be done based on whether or not they say what I'm feeling.

That means some might have some breadth to them and some might be nothing more than observational in nature, meant to do nothing more than make you pause for a moment and think about the observation, letting you smile in agreement, scratching your head in puzzlement, or shaking your head with an angry mental retort meant as rebuttal to my viewpoint. Any and all of those reactions are fine with me, I'm really just still trying to make you think, you don't need to agree with what I'm saying but please grant me the right to speak my mind, I'll gracefully read any counter argument you might have, realizing that we don't have to see eye to eye to have a constructive debate on a topic.

So as you can see from a couple of the earlier posts this evening, the evolution has already started and will continue over the next little while, stick around for a bit and let me know what you think.

Not all old music is good and not all new music is bad......food for thought

My name is Marcus and I follow the adage that if you aren't changing you're most likely stagnating, a little bit each day, something this man isn't willing to allow to happen on his watch.

Today's musical suggestion is "Better Now" by Post Malone.  Makes me wonder how many people who have come and gone from my life think this way..............

I Like My Son.......

Wednesday, July 25/18

I like my son.

I know that might sound like a rather obvious statement for me to make about my son but take a moment and really think about it and what it means.

I love my son unconditionally as every parent should, I'd give my life for him in heartbeat without a moments hesitation.

But the truth is I actually like him as the young man he's developing into.

I watch and listen to his interactions with family and friends and realize that even though his mother and I didn't work out as a couple we still managed to raise an exceptional young man, one who is smart as a whip, athletic, empathetic, understanding, caring, and never seems to ever have a bad word to say about anyone or anything.

I enjoy the moments I get to spend with him, whether it be watching a soccer match, grabbing a pint, or just taking the dog for a walk.

His observations about things happening around us show a deeper understanding of the human condition than I ever had at 19 and his ability to hold a conversation on any number of topics makes me realize that his future is only as set in stone as he wants it to be.........

I think only a parent can really understand the significance of such a simple statement...I like my son, I like my daughter.......love is expected but to actually like the person your child becomes is just the icing on the cake as in this day and age, with the whole "it's about me" mentality that seems to permeate how young people see things, making a lot of people unlikeable, to like your child or sibling says a lot about them as a person.

My name is Marcus and I love my son and daughter, but more importantly, I like my son and daughter, like them a lot do I.



Like & Love

Wednesday, July 25/2018

So I came across this saying in a movie I was watching earlier tonight.

"I like and I love........"

"I like you for the things that make you you...........I love you despite the fact that some of them also drive me nuts"

Kind of an interesting observation and not really looking to add too much to it.

It sort of resonates with me as when I think of some of the people who've come and gone in my life I can honestly I've felt both emotions.

Marcus