My Father's Day

Sunday, June 19/16

Hope everyone had a wonderful day and had the opportunity to get out and enjoy the awesome weather that came our way :)

My day was pretty good with time spent with both of my kids, a wonderful hand made card from my son's girlfriend that caused a few tears, and an overall relaxing day.

I made some bacon and eggs for me and my son, I know I should not be cooking my own breakfast on Father's Day but I enjoy making Sunday breakfast and it helped get him in the groove for some serious studying as he has exams this week.  I sensed the onset of some stress on his part and was able to head it off at the pass with a calm conversation reminding him that he understands the material, has a good study schedule, and got this message reinforced by having his mom call ten minutes later emphasizing all of these points from her perspective. Seemed to have worked so crises averted.

I also got a very nice text from my ex wishing me a Happy Father's Day and telling me how lucky the kids are to have me for a father, something she's known all along she said but just had it confirmed even more this year by observing how some other men she knows parent, or more to the point, don't bother to be a presence in their children's lives.

My daughter swung by around noon and we went to Ikea so I could look at some coffee and end tables since I lost mine when the daughter recently reclaimed her living room set from my play a few weeks back. Friday her boyfriend and one of his friends moved the couch and love seat to my place that my ex gave me when she ordered a new leather living room set for her place. Totally a win-win for this guy wouldn't you say?

We found a coffee table with matching end table that I liked and the price wasn't too bad. Now some people wouldn't like going this route as it means some assembly but I loved it as I got to watch the last hour or so of the US Open while putting them together and do they look nice in my man cave.

I made some hamburger helper for dinner as it is one of my son's favourites and it means leftovers he can heat up tomorrow for lunch since he's home all day studying for his Tuesday chemistry exam. Again another win-win for me as I enjoyed a meal with him and know he's set for lunch and won't be eating pizza pockets or some such thing for lunch.

We watched last weeks episode of Game of Thrones and are getting prepared for next weeks season finale - no worries about any spoiler alerts as I'm still trying to figure out what happened myself.

The night ended with the previously mentioned hand made card from my son's girlfriend T.

I've known T from 2014 when she was on the soccer team my daughter coached and I helped out with for a few games.  I didn't realize her own dad was one who didn't place much value on family time and now some of the comments I've heard made more sense as does her desire to spend family time with my son at my place or my ex's.

She knows how much I like the Mountain Dew commercial with the Puppy Monkey Baby, don't judge me for laughing every single time I see it, and hand drew one for me and the words inside made me want to cry. If she wasn't dating my son I'd adopt her as my second daughter in a heart beat!!

People come into your live for a variety of reasons and I haven't quite figured the reason for her to enter our lives but no matter what it is we are lucky to have her as she reminds me of what is good about being yourself.

All in all a pretty good day and one I could not have scripted to make me feel any better than I do right now. I'm pretty sure that is the goal so consider it job done and done well.

Marcus