Pros and Cons to being Single

November 16/13

Today's musical recommendation -> "We will Still Need A Song" by Hawksley Workman

Ok, I've had a few comments about all the daily music recommendations and why so many seem to mention Indie artists. Yes, it's true I tend to lean towards a lot of Canadian Indie artists but given how much they kick serious azz and how proud I am of my heritage why wouldn't I?

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The other day I received a very nasty message from someone that pretty much told me that nobody gives a s&^t about what I have to say and why don't I just do everyone a favour and go away and die a lonely death. I have to admit the hatred behind the words really hit me hard and for a moment I thought maybe I was wasting my time and anyone's who bothered to read my blog and considered ending the blog........but than I thought that why should the voice of one person be loud enough to drown out my desire to express myself. I mean no one is forcing anyone to read the blog right? Not sure what kind of day she was having and wonder if she'd been told "not interested" by someone and took her anger and hurt out on me to compensate for it.....bottom line is that words do have an impact and that was my reminder that bullying isn't restricted to the school playground. Now onto better things :)

 

So here we are with the holiday's fast approaching and I've been getting all the usual comments from friends about how it must suck to be single or how awesome it must be to have no relationship commitments this time of year - the amusing thing is that both married and single friends make arguements either way.

That got me to thinking what are the benefits and costs to being single and instead of just focusing on the holiday season I've put together a little list of pros and cons to being single regardless of the season. Old readers will notice I didn't use irregardless as that still isn't a word!!! (inside joke)

So here we go......

Pros to being single:

• I can sleep in as late as I want on weekends - not so much these days with the arrival of the puppy :)
• I can stay up as late as I want any night the mood strikes me
• I don't have to consult anyone on what to make for dinner - ok, with the exception of my son
• I can indulge in my techie side and buy things without having to explain myself
• Golf whenever I want - season permitting
• I don't have to negotiate which movie to see - as many chick flicks as I like (stop laughing, it's true)
• I don't have to keep a fixed schedule for doing chores :)
• Never have to worry if it is the right time to drop the "L" word......guys worry about this far more than we let on
• I never have to sit through a holiday at my in-laws
• I get all the blankets to myself
• I never have to hear "you're not really wearing that out tonight are you?"
• I never have to answer the question "Do these pants make my butt look big?" If you feel the need to ask then you already know the answer and why punish me?
• No guilt about making eye contact with an attractive woman across the aisle at Loblaws - Hey, it's happened

 

Cons to being single:

• Nobody to snuggle with
• Nobody to say to me "Come to bed, it's getting late"
• Nobody to test recipes on...trust me on this, 12 year olds don't care about trying new things lol
• Nobody to call just to hear her voice
• Nobody to send me flirty texts
• Nobody to negotiate with on what movie to see - need someone to counter balance my chick flicks
• Nobody to softly cover with the blanket 2am
• Nobody to suggest it might be time to update the old wardrobe. Contrary to my current view golf shirts don't constitute a wardrobe
• Nobody to do chores and errands with
• Nobody to smile at me from across the room with that look that just says it all without saying a word
• Nobody to tell me she loves me.

 

Hopefully you'll see the humour in both my lists but the fact is that for me the cons far outweigh the pros and I'd gladly ditch them for someone to call my own.

As much as my married male friends like to joke around on how I've got it made being single the real truth is that they've got the life I want for myself......someone to share things with, to be intimate with, to make plans with, to take trips with, to just be with........

As always comments and opinions are welcome but I'll keep following the path less travelled in my own journey :)