Wednesday, March 20, 2013

2011-05-27 Dating


Today's musical recommendation - "Letters from the Sky" by Civil Twilight.......has a very haunting piano riff running throughout the song

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 Today's rambling is about dating....

Why does it seem like dating gets harder the older you get? Shouldn't it actually be easier since you've passed the game playing stages and hopefully understand what floats your boat?

Of course I can only speak from the male perpective unless I unleash my inner woman but lets leave that for another posting ok?

Let me clue some of you in....not every guy is looking to end the night in bed. I know there are a lot of guys whose sole objective is to end the night that way but I'd like to think these specimens exude enough hints about this that a normal person could pick up on it and avoid them in the first place.

Over the course of the past few years I've been on many meet-n-greets and dates and the one thing I've learned is that no two are ever alike and each one makes me nervous. I've learned to listen to what they say and try my best to make any decisions about future dates based on the total package - looks, brains, and personality.

My worst date was with a woman who spent the first 15 minutes telling me how she hated dads who were overly involved with their kids when it wasn't his custody week.....red flags and alarms went off so fast.....she went on to tell me about this great book she'd been reading at her daughters soccer game the night before. Really? you took a book to your daughters athletic event and every time she looked over to see if you saw the amazing move she made she got to see you immersed in a book........... didn't take much to figure out there wouldn't be a second date

One of my best dates left me wondering about my ability to read the signs. Met this lovely lady for lunch and we spent the next 2+ hours chatting over salads and wine and when it ended I walked her to her car. She paused after unlocking the door and proceeded to lean back against the car and kept chatting with me, playing with her hair, dropping her keys, all the signs that she was sending me the ok for a kiss. Of couse being kind of dense I never picked up on them until after I left. We talked later that evening and she teased me about not taking a hint but she was being really cool about it so we made plans for later that week to meet after work down in the market at the Hard Rock Cafe. We got there at the same time from opposite directions and she walked right up to me and before I could even say hello she kissed me very softly, smiled and said now that it was out of the way lets have a great night   and we did   and to this day we chat about this and that.

My point is that you never know what might happen if you don't let your mind shut down and just go with the directions of your heart......sometimes you might end up regretting a wasted night like I did with soccer mom and than you might end up getting lucky and meeting someone pretty darn incredible who ends up making you feel like a million dollars.

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