What If....

Profiles are like perishable items in that they have a short shelf life and I think this one is fast approaching it's expiry date (Sep 27/11) and it will be time for me to step back and do some assessing on whether this medium is working for me or if I should hire a new marketing manager and attempt to rebrand myself.....ok, far too many references from my MBA but I'm sure my old prof's would be happy to see me applying at least some of the stuff they made me learn lol

 

I'm getting some questions about what the whole countdown is about so let me clear up any confusion.

I've been on this site on and off since late 2007 early 2008 and find that I'm usually good for a few months before the games get to be too much or I start seeing all of the same profiles over and over......so at that point I either close my account or go into hibernation mode while I focus on other things happening in my life. This time of year gets busy as school is just starting, my son plays hockey, and my daughter plays indoor soocer so the timing is just right for me to take that needed break.

Now this doesn't mean that if I meet someone between now and than I wouldn't be open to seeing what could happen but I'm not optimistic that will happen between now and my self determined deadline. I'm stubborn that way.

Also, please don't get me wrong and think all my experiences on this pond have been bad as the majority of them, around 95% when I exclude the 2 stalkers, have been nice and there are some incredible woman on here...I've just not been lucky enough to meet one where we both felt that "click" at the same time

So having said all the above feel free to read on if interested and don't if not as the world will continue to spin around the sun regardless of what we do......I'm just saying

"Evil is one thing but mean is a hurt that never goes away" - my son told me this one and it resonated with me

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What if there was a guy who was really looking to meet someone and see what could develop over time.....

• What if he valued family above everything else?
• What if he had a decent job that he was good at and enjoyed?
• What if he had his own vehicle?
• What if he didn't live in his parents basement but rather had his own place?
• What if he had dealt with any emotional issues from past relationships?
• What if he didn't post any shirtless pictures of himself?
• What if he didn't expect anything to happen on the first date other than some smiles, laughter, and maybe the opportunity for a second date?
• What if he believes in open communications and actually practices what he preaches?
• What if he was friends with his ex and not just because she is the mother of his children but because she is a good person and sometimes things really just don't work out?
• What if he loved a great round of golf but accepts that most of his rounds fall far short of great but he continues on anyways?
• What if he likes to take drives with no predetermined destination in mind?
• What if he was afraid of heights but challenges that fear every chance he gets?
• What if he likes to spend a rainy Sunday watching movies, reading a book, or listening to music?
• What if his taste in music ranged from Bach to ZZ Top and everything in between?
• What if he owned a laptop, iPod, and iPhone and uses them all?
• What if he recognized he was carrying a few extra pounds and working to improve his physique?
• What if he didn't like horror movies but was willing to see one if you asked?
• What if he was born in the U.S. but considers himself Canadian? Eh?
• What if what you owned or who you knew didn't impress him but how you treated the barrista did?
• What if he was just average looking but content with himself and what he has to offer someone willing to forego the Hollywood looks that fade over time?

I like to think that I'm that guy.

I have my 11 y/o son on alternate weeks under a great shared custody arrangement with my ex. We came very close, like 15 minutes close, to losing him back in Dec09 due to a very serious medical condition so I tend to spend as much time with him as I can and can be found watching all his hockey games and most practices no matter the week. One thing I learned was just how fragile life is and how quickly someone so incredibly special can be taken from you in the blink of an eye......I think it has made me a tad bit protective of him but also means I appreciate all the time I have with those who mean something to me :)