Today's musical
recommendation - "Juliette" by Hollerado
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August 13/11
So I was talking with a friend the other day as we were
loading the moving truck with all of my worldly possessions and she mentioned
how her husband, out of earshot of course, wasn't that romantic and since he
was pretty much like me in that department it got me to thinking just what
constitutes being romantic and/or is considered a romantic gesture...........
We all know and understand how we are programmed to be
romantic on Valentine's Day and as a guy I'm one of the millions who literally
hate that day. Not because I'm not romantic but rather because I don't like
being told that this one day is the make or break day of the year to show
someone you care for them. I'm more the every day kind of guy when it comes to
that.
So what do I mean by the every day kind of guy?
Well in my world I like to do the little things on a daily
basis that show my partner she is important to me and that bring a smile to her
face......things like getting her morning juice and placing it on the counter
in the bathroom so when she gets out of her steaming sauna like shower she has
a refreshing drink waiting for her, the gentle touch of my hand as I pass her
in the kitchen, a kiss just because it feels right, picking up her favourite
magazine when I'm at Chapters, leaving a note in the book she is reading that
has our initials surrounded by a heart, a text message at 3pm telling her I
can't wait to see her tonight, and a back massage out of the blue when he is
falling asleep that totally gets her into that relaxed zone for a good nights
sleep.
Don't get me wrong that I don't do the others as I've sent
flowers and candies, heck I've hand delivered the flowers, book dinner at a
nice restaurant, or taken her to her favourite place - Casino Lac Leamey :)
To me those little things mean more than that once a year
event that is not really done as much from the heart as it is out of a sense of
obligation.......
It's kind of like the first time a new partner uses the L
word and you aren't at the same point......do you say it back and feel bad for
not being honest with yourself but spare the other person the hurt of not
hearing it back or do you stay true to yourself knowing you'll come across
looking kind of cold hearted??
In the past I followed the first route and if things didn't
work out I always got the "But you told me you loved me back" line
and it completely sucked as it is a form of deception whether meant that way or
not.
So in your books would you rather the once or twice a year
huge blowout by your partner to show how much they care or be reminded every
day with some thoughtful gesture or word on they're part???
This wasn't my original topic for today but yesterday as I
was unpacking a box of books a note fell out of one and it was from my
ex......she placed notes throughout this one favorite book of mine knowing I
would read it again at some point and I guess I didn't do it as soon as she had
hoped as the notes were from 2007 but they brought back some warm memories and
made me realize it is the little things I miss and crave the most........
Apparrently you and your wife both appreciated the year round gestures or you wouldn't found the note in your book.
ReplyDeleteI bought a camp netting 8 years ago when I went to Peru. I ended up not using it, so never opened it. This year I packed it for a trip and had to open it. I found a note from my hubby, brought ears to my eyes, we have been apart for three years now. I wonder if if thought I was insensitive for never bringing it up, not realizing I never found it.